Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Keep the Path going..

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Thanks, Geri

January...the beginning

Each January 1st people across the world have their minds set on new beginnings.  The beginning of the new year with all its opportunities; the beginning of a new diet or healthier life style; the beginning of a new attitude, hobby, interest, inspiration.  While I applaud those ideals, I think we often get roped into believing that with a resolution there is an "end game."  Life is not an end game but rather a process in which we evolve.

With a resolution we assume that when we have accomplished our goal that we are then done.  Rather, I encourage you to have goals which once met are just the first step in an ever changing process of becoming the best person you can be.  It takes the pressure off of assuming we have to get to the end result when we are ever changing, whether with baby steps or great leaps.

This year I am trying something new.  I have identified an area of focus for myself with each month.  January-health; February-creativity; March-relaxation (going on a vacation it seemed appropriate!); and so on.  Again no reference to resolutions, merely focuses that will become a priority.

May your path be every evolving as you create your life along the way...

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Gift of Giving

Tis the season of giving.  And shopping.  And crowds.  And wrapping.
What this equates to is a lot of stress and anxiety.  So often we scramble around trying to find the perfect gift and then for the unfortunate few on the list you just end up getting something just to be able to give something.  The true meaning is lost.  And the best gift may just be you!

You may be asking what is the true meaning?  I suppose it means different things to different people.  Ideally the point is to give from the heart.  It should not matter the cost, or the wrapping it comes in.  It should be about the thoughtfulness of the giver toward the receiver; the attempt to share your knowledge of what the receiver will enjoy and cherish.  In other words, it is giving of yourself to someone you care about. 

As the Grinch describes the "gifts" of Christmas...
"It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes, or bags.
The the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before.
Maybe Christmas doesn't come from a store.
Maybe Christmas...He thought...means a little bit more"

So while you shuffle from store to store, take a moment and reflect on what is really important about the Christmas gift.  Share from the heart!  Sometimes the gifts of your time or talents is all anyone needs!

May your path be filled with gifts from the heart!

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Friendships: Living Vicariously vs Merely Enjoying!

I have one daughter.  She is like me in many ways but also very different in other ways.  She is athletic, I am not.  We are both creative.  She is tall, I am short.  We both love to shop.  I show my emotions, she does not.  Anyway, when she went to the same college as I did, and then was initiated into the same sorority I had been in, I was ecstatic! 

Many people thought I was re-living my college days vicariously through her.  While I cherish my memories of my time from college and more so the friendships that still continue, I didn't want to relive that time.  I merely wanted my daughter to be able to establish similar bonds and relationships that I know can provide so much for her future.  And that has happened for her.

This weekend she will be the Maid of Honor for her best friend since Junior high.  That too is something I am very excited for, for her.  I recently had the opportunity to share 4 days with my best friends from high school; friends that I still depend on, cherish and value.  So while I am not living through my daughter's experiences, I am reflecting on those memories of times with my friends. 

You see, it is the friendships that transpire time, that can mean feeling loved or lonely, supported or isolated, cherished vs. empty.  I am blessed by my friends and I want my daughter to have the same friendships that will follow her through her life. 

May your path be filled with friendships that transpire time!

And Best wishes to Lindsey and Rob as you unite as one!  May your life together be filled with friends to support you along the way!  I know Jamie will always be there for you, as will I!

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Let It Go

Feeling frustrated...let it go!
Feeling sad or depressed...let it go!
Overwhelmed...let it go!

Wow wouldn't that be great if we could just let go of all the things that keep us stuck feeling frustrated, sad, depressed, overwhelmed, grieving, self-conscious, and the list could just go on and on.  Well as simple as it sounds, we actually can break that loop in our minds that keeps us stuck! 

All of those negative feelings are bound up with either the past or the future.  Instead of letting your mind focus back or forward, try being present in the moment.  That is called mindfulness.  It means being present in the current moment. 

Take a deep breath.  Hold it in.  Let it out slowly.  Feel yourself relax.  Experience what is right in front of you.  Focusing on the present will stop the loop of negatives for the current moment.  We often have a thought that drifts into our minds and then we dwell on it.  Instead let it come in and go out acknowledging it but drawing yourself back to the present.  Of course this takes time to become a habit, but it can make a difference. 

May you find yourself letting go and allowing yourself to be present on the path before you!

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Choose With Purpose

Last week I wrote about the importance of maintaining friendships and this week I am focusing on our romantic partners.

I came across a blog by Bryan Reeves titled Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) that was so raw and wise and purposeful that I just had to share.  While I will share the link, it does have sexual graphics that I must warn you about but moving past that the article has such a great message:  https://bryanreeves.com/choose-her-everyday-or-leave-her/. 

The message speaks about the importance of choosing our relationships not just once, but daily committing to choose that person, day after day.  We so often let the world around us including our jobs, organizations, hobbies, other family members, take us away from what is and should be the most important thing in our life. 

Do I choose my spouse daily?  How do I show that I choose him?  I had never thought of those questions but they really have changed my outlook toward my marriage.  Because when we don't choose daily and don't show our partner that we choose daily, they are left to wonder emotionally, psychologically and physically.  I'm not talking about being unfaithful, but that too could happen.  I'm talking about how they can feel unappreciated, unimportant, unloved and then become angry, bitter, sad, disconnected or any other negative emotion. 

Sure life can make us busy but don't we all have the time to tell our partner each day that we choose them!?!  I'm going to make this a habit!

May your path be lined with daily choices of choosing your partner!

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Connections

This past week I spent four days with four of my closest high school friends.  Back home now, people ask what we did and I have to laugh because mostly we just talked.  We filled each in on our marriages, children, struggles and joy.  We talked about our parents and siblings, about regrets and adventures.  In other words, we connected.  We may not see each other often, living in Illinois, Georgia, Colorado and California, but anyone overhearing us would not know distance separates us.  We know each other.  We have a bond.  We support each other.  We cherish our connections.

That connection is a choice.  We choose to stay in touch.  While we once saw each other daily, we now have to make an effort to stay connected.  This high tech, fast paced society we live in today makes staying connected much easier.  When I was a kid, we had to mail a letter or use a land line to stay connected.  Today we have email, texting, cell phones, Instagram, Facetime and much more.  While technology makes staying connected much easier, nothing beats sitting around a fire and seeing the joy, or sorrow, or love written on someone's face.  We miss so much of the "story" when we only see it in writing or hear it behind a phone.  We need that personal vision, touch, voice.

If you care about someone and/or they are important to you, make your connection to them a priority.  And that doesn't just mean with friends, but also family, business contacts, etc.

May your path be filled with meaningful connections!